I see a lot of people wondering how they know if they are ready for hormone replacement therapy. Every person is different but these are the following steps I took (not in any order) before starting testosterone to be sure I was really, truly ready. For context I socially transitioned for two years before starting T. While I feel as though I was ready after about 8 months to begin I was a minor and did not have parental consent.
Research: I can’t express how important research is. Read medical articles and connect with people online (make sure they’re reliable). Make you sure know and understand everything that HRT will do to you. This doesn’t just mean the benefits (or the things you want to happen) but also the risks.
Make a List of Questions: While you’re researching questions will probably pop up for you. Keep a list of these questions, some may be answered by doing more research while others will have to wait until you can talk to a doctor. Do not leave any of these questions unanswered.
Be honest with your doctors: Be honest with the doctors who have a part in your transition. Whether they are the gender therapist or the endocrinologist. Be honest when they ask you questions about your feelings, thoughts, history, lifestyle, etc. You may think lying will get you T but these questions exist for a reason.
Be honest with yourself: If you have doubts or fears, don’t ignore them. Think about them (write them down) and figure out why you are feeling these things. These doubts and fears will not go away, it’s best to address them before starting hormones.
Keep living: Sometimes it’s hard to keep living a productive life when you feel stuck because you can’t transition. The thing is, life goes on, and you should go with it. Surround yourself with things that make you happy at the same time as going to school/working/living a productive life. The other side of this is that doctors prefer to hear that you are living a functional life.
Feel free to ask questions or add to the list. I know my experiences are different but that doesn’t mean some of this stuff can’t translate or help.